Coil: Beating children in Guyana’s democracy
by Vidyaratha Kissoon
“You wuz just on the programme?… let me
tell you something… my daughter was 17 the first time I beat her, I had
to beat her to straighten her out” said the taxi driver, an old man with
beard and cap and who probably don’t break any traffic rules or
anything like that.
International Women’s Day 2017 . People
being polite about being bold for change and so. Some men want to know
about men’s rights.
In other places, men talk about keeping
their women in place – abuse and violence are man things and the taxi
man talked about beat his 17 year old daughter.
The Guyanese father though, was proud of
having to ‘straighten’ his 17 year old daughter. He had other stories
he wanted to tell about why it is okay to beat children. There is no
shame in Guyana when people talk and are consulted about their need to
beat children.
Stan Gouveia wanted to talk about corporal punishment on his radio programme
on International Women’s Day. He is concerned about violence against
children and raised the issue when it was no longer really being talked
about.
“Corporal punishment’ is the nice phrase
used to imply that the people doing the beating have a right to inflict
violence on the bodies of others they think need punishing with
violence.
Words and phrases are important, in
other parts of the law the same activity would be called ‘assault’ when
done by adults on other adults.
The radio discussion was about beating
children and beating children in schools. In Guyana, schools are places
where the Government could assault its citizens.
There was an associated social media
discussion which had the usual the defence of culture, and experience
and how people would have been worse if they did not get beat and so on.
There were people in the discussions who resisted the idea that beating
is a good and necessary thing, and said it was time to change.
In 2013, the parliament convened a special select committee and invited submissions from the public. Participatory democracy at its best in Guyana.
Nothing happened since parliament
prorogued, there was change in Government and it is still okay to
assault children in Guyana’s schools to punish them.
On the evening of International Women’s
Day 2017, the University of Guyana held a discussion around research
findings into the prosecution of domestic violence against women. One of
the discussants Andrew Hicks talked about the need for rehabilitation
of perpetrators of violence.
Another young discussant Lisa Hussain
talked about children learning early about violence and that
the change
had to start with teaching children respect for each other.
Vanda Radzik is Commissioner on the
Women and Gender Equality Commission. In her remarks, she picked up on
the link between beating children and other forms of violence like
gender based violence.
She issued a call to her ‘brother’ –
Minister of Education Dr Rupert Roopnaraine and the other politicians to
stop with ‘consulting’ and to actually move to a policy of no beating
in schools.
The Minister of Education in December 2015
had said that Government would be eradicating Corporal punishment from
schools. However, not much has happened since as the Minister probably
had to succumb like his predecessors to the abusive tendencies of his
staff. This inability to change is probably symptomatic of other
problems in the public education system which led to a Commission of
Inquiry.
In January 2016, President Granger also stated that he believed there is no place for Corporal Punishment in Guyana.
According to the Kaieteur News report, President Granger said ““We need
to remove all forms of corporal punishment from the school and in the
home. Maybe 50 years, 100 years ago it might have been typical but the
days of going into a class room or a home and seeing the wild cane have
passed. Intelligent educated parents must use different means which do
not involve the application of force.””
Guyana’s red colour stands out on the Global Map of progress to deal with corporal punishment.
However, it seems the President , like
the Minister of Education, could only talk about this and not disrupt
the people who like to beat children.
There has been no movement on the legislative agenda, no visible campaign to change attitudes.
Imagine if Guyanese wanted democracy and
good governance as badly as they wanted to keep beating children.
Imagine if Guyanese wanted a Constitution that really valued every life
as equal as much as they wanted to keep beating children. Imagine if the
politicians were as afraid of the citizens demanding better governance
as they were of citizens who want beat children.
I could have hollered at the taxi driver
that he should not be proud of beating his 17 year old daughter. I was
afraid of confrontation though and walked away.
He was not the only one who disagreed with the radio programme.
A recently married couple who do not
have children also felt the same way as the taxi driver. I hollered at
the young husband though, because I knew him. I told him he needed to
say before he gets children that he will not be at and that he should
learn about parenting.
The #BeBoldForChange on International Women’s Day was about gender parity and equality.
Vanda Radzik asked the audience to think about the Change in the attitude to beating children.
Change is possible. It takes time. It is
traumatic for many persons to realise that their behaviour is abusive.
They have to learn new behaviours , new ways of asserting their own
sense of being an adult looking after children.
Change requires empathy with children
and remembering what it was like being ‘bad’. Change requires knowing
that getting licks by parents was out of ignorance most times of
anything different, and that it is possible to not continue. Violence
shuts down communication , as told in a short story by ‘Jane Pierce’
Change is knowing that disciplining children is about teaching and not about beating.
As long as Guyana’s democracy upholds
violence against children as a standard of culture and sovereignty,
there will be little change to reducing other forms of violence.
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